At a pre-Grammy party, this past weekend, David Beckham caused a fan to faint with one kiss on the cheek. The touch of his lips was powerful enough to buckle her knees and set the room spinning, which certainly says something about the man, the kiss and the woman. You may think that it demonstrates the female infatuation with celebrity and the boons of being a world-famous soccer player, but you’re a man. You see kissing as an early-on-in-the relationship necessity, a path to the bedroom and a way to end a fight, any fight. Women, on the other hand, see much, much more.
For a woman, the kiss is a method of assessment. It determines whether a relationship is possible, whether a man cares for himself and her, and whether or not the night will end in sex or a cold shower (for you). It is an extremely intimate act that creates or breaks a bond between two people, and it is necessary throughout the entire relationship. Whether it is your first date or your fiftieth anniversary, you have to put some effort into the kiss, because the woman you are kissing is judging you and the state of your bond. No, you don’t have to make her swoon. After the first-time ego-boost, that type of reaction would become old (and possibly dangerous) quickly. But you do have to make it good. So how do you do that?
First, make sure that your mouth is ready. The last thing a woman wants to sense when kissing a man is bad breath, bad taste and rough lips. Keep your lips nice, smooth and chap-free. Make sure that your breath is, if not minty-fresh, not garlicy. Pop in a mint or a piece of gum if you’ve just had a rather odiferous meal and even if you haven’t, consider it. Your mouth may still be stale and off-putting. When you do go in for the kiss, don’t be too eager or forceful. Her face is not something to be devoured or slobbered over. And finally, pay attention to how she is reacting to the kiss, not only in how she is enjoying it but how she wants it to progress. Jumping to conclusions could leave you and your lips alone, which on a night like tonight would be a shame.
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